Category: Finding Home
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Awareness

People know what happened to me. This was my biggest fear when I was younger and now… people know. If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you know, too: I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. As a child, I tried consciously and desperately to hide what I was going through. When…
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Safety: in numbers, experience, and practice

My therapist asks me how my coworkers would describe me and adds: do they treat you like you’re a child? A pause for a few seconds to think… I ask myself how I think my coworkers would describe me. Outloud I say: “I think they would describe me as smart and… kind”. Now that I…
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There’ll be days like this

It’s the nature of relationships, even with those you love, that there will be disagreements, even conflict.I’m about to spoil the ending for you: a few weeks ago I asked my created family to go through the legal process of adult adoption and they said no. I won’t go into details here of conversations had…
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Family Matters
I created this section: ‘Finding Home’, first because the family I have isn’t made up of people I am related to by blood and I have found family over time and in different places. Secondly, I wanted to give hope to those who are at various levels of disconnect from their biological families; there are…
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My ‘real’ family
Family, to me, is not necessarily the people I share DNA with. That is not to say that there is no one who I am related to that I consider family but the reason I consider them family has nothing to do with blood. My family are the people who stand by me, who support…